Treat Your Wife Like A Woman

JP | #Intangibl3
Apr 6, 2017
3 min read

In any relationship a lack of time spent on that relationship can quickly spell doom for those involved. Friendships have a habit of weathering this sort of thing, but marriage is a completely different story. Marriage is unique among the numerous kinds of relationships one may have. It requires steady attention and desire; strong attraction and humor; the ability to see the worst in someone but believe in the best of them. It requires fortitude and resolve; integrity and lightheartedness; it requires deep love unlike that given to or received from anyone other than your spouse.

The depths of despair await those too dense to fight for their love. Those depths are reached far too often by men and women who were unable to see where they were fucking up. They didn't realize that neglecting their spouse is the same as neglecting themselves and that the same love that was felt at the alter could have survived and even been multiplied had they cared enough to try when they still had the chance.

So, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to end up another in the long line of failed marriages? If that is not something that you want then you should seriously consider dating your wife.

I've heard so many people talk about how their relationship just "isn't the same" as it was in the beginning. I think to myself every time: "Well, no shit! Fires burn out if you don't add wood!" It drives me nuts when I see people just disregarding what should be common sense. The beginning of a relationship is on fire - set ablaze by a spark of attraction - and that fire will go out if it isn't fed!

There is so much bullshit online about what the role of a man is in a marriage, but people that may have good intentions are making it too complicated. Why not just keep it simple like it was at the beginning? Remember when you and your wife were both in love with each other yet still free? You should both remain free! Not free to fuck other people - but free to be yourselves; the same selves that attracted you to each other to begin with! She didn't marry the fat, lazy, complaining version of you - she married the fit, hardworking, carefree version of you. And the same goes for her. You didn't fall for the naggy, grumpy version of her; you fell for the sexy, lighthearted version of her.

So why the hell did you both change? Who knows!? Maybe you just go tired of life's bullshit. Whatever the reason is it isn't good enough to justify the shift. It stands to reason that if something went wrong along the way, then you should go back to how it was before that "something" went wrong and work outward from there. Go back to treating your wife like a woman. Flirt with her; joke with her; wrestle with her; tickle her; grab her ass; dance with her; complement her; make her blush; laugh with her; laugh at her occasionally; date her. Don't just love her - but love her.

Before she is your wife and before she is a mother - she is a woman. Treat her like one; treat her like the one; like the feminine to your masculine; the night to your day; the yin to your yang; the beauty to your strength. Don't take her for granted as that is probably the quickest way to failure. Recognize the shit she does for you and return the favor. Surprise her with a night out. Say thank you. Pick her up and spin her around in the middle of where-the-fuck-ever.

Be the you that she fell for. That will, more than anything else, cause her to open up like a flower bud in spring. When you are you, she is allowed to be her. Keep that fire burning.

-JP