Expectations
- JP | #Intangibl3
- Feb 10, 2017
- 3 min read
I have found through my own experiences that one of the most important factors in any man's decision to do something other than what is expected of him is his fear of how others will react, particularly those close to him such as family and/or friends. Stepping outside of your normal routine is scary and dangerous and when you compound that with the fear of rejection from others it is easy to see why so many men just stay within the confines of the invisible coffin that others have placed them in. They even go so far as to get defensive when their coffin starts shaking, thinking that someone is disturbing them when in reality that coffin is slowly being lowered down into the unforgiving grave.
That might seem over the top to some of you but you must realize that an existence within the cell that others imprison you in with their expectations and judgements is no existence at all. You might as well just let yourself be put in the grave because the effect you have on the world around you is going to be the same in either case. Your peace and joy will be nonexistent in both cases as well.
I lived for a long time thinking that I had to live to please others. I never wanted to rock the boat or cause an upset because I didn't want others to think that I was something other than the face that I put on. I didn't want to disappoint them, and so I became really good at convincing people that I was something far different than what I actually am. Not too long ago, though, as a result of a circumstances and events that I will go into at a later time, I came to a place where I could no longer keep of the charade. I could no longer live in that box of expectation.
Even if you aren't the type of person that puts on a fake face, but you are your genuine self yet still afraid of disappointing others, this still applies. The result of trying to live inside the lines is the same either way.
And so, I, like so many other men, stopped doing that. And this post describes you in any way, then you need to heed this advice: Live according to your own expectations, not that of those around you. It is not your job to please everyone. It is your job to live your life in a way that is fulfilling and honest. For me that means that I had to stop letting the expectations and opinions of others have any effect on my life. It's not that the opinions of others are always worthless, but they are always intrusive.
Every one of us will have vastly different experiences and perceptions than everyone else and people, whether through good intentions or not, will often tell you what they think you should do in business, relationships, school and just life in general. This often causes doubt about the future and fear of stepping into our potential - especially if those words come from someone we respect, love or admire. In the end, though, you are the only person that has to live with you. You are responsible to yourself for your failures and your successes. The best thing any man can do is to begin living on his own terms and according to what he has on the inside of him - that passion - that faith - that power.
Do not listen to what others say any longer. The opinions of others should have no effect on what you do in your life. The expectations of others should not imprison you. The judgements of others should never slow you down. You have to live your life doing what your gut tells you to do - following your instinct - rather than living according to the bullshit that any - ANY - other person spews out.
You are the only man that is responsible for you - so live your fucking life how YOU want to live it and fuck the rest of it.
Fuck 'em and feed 'em fish heads.
-JP
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